A few things to think about…
It seems to be a universal fact that minorities, especially when their individuals are recognizable because of physical differences, are treated by majorities among whom they live as an inferior class.
The tragic part of such a fate, however, lies not only in the automatically realized disadvantage suffered by these minorities in economic and social relations, but also in the fact that those who meet such treatment themselves for the most part acquiesce in the prejudiced estimate because of the suggestive influence of the majority, and come to regard themselves as inferior.
This second and more important aspect of the evil can be met through closer union and conscious educational enlightenment among the minority, and so an emancipation of the soul of the minority can be attained.
The determined effort of the American Negroes in this direction deserves every recognition and assistance.
Albert Einstein, 1931
Our society doesn’t promote self acceptance and it never will. First of all, self-acceptance doesn’t sell products. Capitalism would fall if we liked ourselves the way we are now. Also, people who feel shamed and inadequate themselves tend to pass it on. I’m sure you’ve noticed that many individuals and groups try to enhance their self-esteem by diminishing others.
Harriet Lerner, PhD.
“Fear and Other Uninvited Guests” (2004)
It isn’t what we say or think that defines us, but what we do.”
Marianne Dashwood was born into an extraordinary fate. She was born to discover the falsehood of her own opinions, and to counteract, by her conduct, her most favorite maxims.
Love, work and knowledge are the wellsprings of our life. They should also govern it.
Wilhelm Reich, M.D.
The foolish and the dead alone never change their positions.
James Russell Lowell, poet
I would rather love what I cannot have, than have what I cannot love.
I am in daily danger of giving my life for my country and duty for I understand that duty and have the courage to carry it out the duty of preventing the United States from spreading through the Antilles as Cuba gains its independence, and from empowering with that additional strength our lands of America. All I have done so far, and all I will do, is for this purpose. I have had to work quietly and somewhat indirectly, because to achieve certain objectives, they must be kept under cover; to proclaim them for what they are would raise such difficulties that the objectives could not be attained.
José Martí, May 19, 1895
(Letter to Manuel Mercado, the final words Marti ever wrote.)
Hacer es lo mejor manera de decir
(Doing it is the best way to say it.)
When all men think alike, no one thinks very much.
Walter Lippmann (other one)
Perfectionism spells paralysis.
Knowledge is too precious to hoard.
In this world we presume many ambitions. We make many observations such as (a) everyone’s aloneness (there really are no categories, you know. Everyone is so alone — the basic, essential state of humankind); (b) the paradox that is communication – the built-in answer to that feeling of aloneness.
Communication itself is what baffles the multitude. It is both so difficult and so simple. Of all man’s fears. Of all man’s fears, I think men are most afraid of being what they are — in direct communication with the world at large. They fear reprisals, the most personal of which is that they “won’t be understood.”
How can anyone expect to be understood unless he presents his thoughts with complete honesty? This situation is unfair because it asks too much of the world. In effect, we say, “I don’t dare show you what I am anyway because I don’t trust you for a minute but please love me anyway because I need you to. And, of course, if you don’t love me anyway, you’re a dirty dog, just as I suspected, so I was right in the first place.” Yet, every time God’s children have thrown away fear in pursuit of honesty — trying to communicate themselves, understood or not — miracles have happened.
September 16, 1965